8 Signs Of A Manipulator (and what to do about it)


Dealing with manipulative people sucks.

Unfortunately I have loads of personal experience in this area, and it’s not something that’s going to change any time soon.  Even though it’s an aspect of my life that I would change in a heartbeat if I could, I realize that through my own burden I have a chance to help others.  Going through this myself gives me a unique perspective and insights that I would not otherwise have.

I wouldn’t wish a manipulative relationship on anyone, but the harsh reality is that millions of people deal with one every. single. day.  Many of them don’t even realize what’s wrong.  Manipulators are tricky people who are very, very good at covering up their agenda.  However, from my own experience I’ve come up with a list of red flags and warning signs that manipulators give off.  If you feel that there is something even slightly off with a relationship of yours or that of someone you know, please take a look at this list.

You might be with a manipulator if…

1. Agreeing to disagree is never an option.  

Manipulators want to control what you think.  Because of this, it is never alright for you to differ in opinion.  To the manipulator, this is a sign of you slipping out of his control.

2. They re-label their own behavior.  

In my own experience with a manipulative person, he would be yelling at the top of his lungs in an argument and then insist that you were just having a “discussion”.  When recounting their own actions, manipulators will downplay or completely lie about any unacceptable behavior even if they know you witnessed it.  They are masters at making you question your own perceptions.

3. They have a hidden dark side.  

A manipulative person is always charming and charismatic to those who don’t know them well.  It’s a tool of the trade to him. If people could see through the mask, he wouldn’t be able to control them.  Acquaintances would barely believe the stories recounted by those closest to him – which is yet another thing that works in his favor.

4. They always deflect.  

It is impossible to argue with, criticize, or reprimand a manipulator.  Any attempt at commenting on undesirable actions immediately results in the manipulator coming up with something unrelated to criticize you for.  Example: if you say to him “I asked you to fill up the car with gas and you said you would, but it is still empty.  Please do that the next time you are out”, he will quickly return fire with “Well, you NEVER keep the bathrooms clean!”.  This also leads to our next point.

5. It is impossible to stay on topic in an argument.  

Using the last example, you would quickly find yourself in an argument about the state of your bathrooms when all you wanted was for him to put gas in the car.  This tactic is like a double edged sword for a manipulator – it enables him to attack you AND it causes you to quickly forget whatever it is that he did wrong.

6. They do things for shock value.

Manipulators enjoy being able to control the mental and emotional state of others, and an easy way for them to accomplish this is to do or say something shocking.  The most common method used is probably saying something inappropriate (or in an inappropriate setting), but they may also go so far as to stage elaborate “pranks” just to unsettle people.

7. They argue in cycles.

Once I was able to observe an argument from a distance, I could easily see that the manipulator went through a cycle of very distinct phases: first explosive anger, designed to frighten the other person into relenting.  If that didn’t work, next came logic – the manipulator would calm down and attempt to reason out his point of view.  If he still wasn’t getting his way, the next step was crying, complete with false apologies and self-pity.  This could then either be followed by another bout of reasoning, or the cycle could start back at anger again.  What was very unsettling for me to observe, once I realized this, is that it happens the same way every time.  What appears to be a highly emotional affair on the part of the manipulator is, in fact, a carefully calculated routine aimed at getting him exactly what he wants.

8. Finally, they can’t take no for an answer.  

In my opinion, this is the single greatest defining characteristic of manipulators.  Indecently, this also makes it a great litmus test.  Hearing a decisive “no” is the greatest failure a manipulator can experience because it indicates a failure on his part to brainwash you into his point of view.  If you are questioning whether someone in your life may be manipulative, try the “no” test.  It’s exactly like it sounds – next time they want you to do something, simply say no.  Their reaction should tell you everything you need to know.

What to do about it:

Even if you have already determined that someone in your life is manipulative, deciding what to do next is incredibly difficult and can cause a lot of heartache.  From my own long-term experience with a manipulative person, this would be my advice to anyone dealing with this situation.

  • If you are dating this person, break up with them.  Now.  While this may seem like an incredibly harsh solution, the kind of boundaries that need to be set with a manipulative person are not possible within this kind of close relationship.  Additionally, please believe me when I wholeheartedly say that you do not want to tie your future family to a manipulative person forever.  Keep in mind that by its very nature a breakup with a manipulative person will not go smoothly and can easily become abusive (if it isn’t already).  Please, please be very aware, surround yourself with people who will support you, and do not be afraid to get help if you need it.
  • If the person is a friend, it is imperative that you set boundaries ASAP and, more importantly, stand your ground no matter what tricks the manipulator pulls.  Depending on the closeness of your relationship, you may decide to just set a few rules (e.g. “no more borrowing money from me”), put a fair bit of distance between you, or even end the relationship completely.  The important thing to remember here is that the manipulator will not give up without a fight, but when he finally realizes that you won’t be moved, he will likely ditch you and move on to someone who allows him to manipulate them.  Stand your ground no matter what.
  • The most difficult situation is when the manipulator is a family member.  In this instance, you will have to decide whether or not to continue a relationship with this person.  If you choose to continue, you must make it very clear that you will no longer allow yourself to be manipulated or coerced in any way.  I also strongly recommend reading the Boundaries – I honestly believe that this book changed my life!  It very clearly illustrates unacceptable behavior and what to do about it.  If you are choosing to set boundaries and continue a relationship with a manipulative person, this book is a must read.
  • A final word: if there is any other kind of abuse occurring besides manipulation, get out now.  As they are already abusing their privilege of having a relationship with you, manipulators are very prone to other abuse as well.  No matter how hard it is to leave, staying is never worth it.  If you need help leaving, tell someone.  Visit the website for the National Domestic Violence Hotline.  Remember that a manipulator’s goal is to make you feel like you have no options, but that is always a lie.

I sincerely hope this post has been able to help someone who needs it. If you know of anyone who may be dealing with a manipulative relationship, please share this with them and support their decision making process!  Also, if you have experienced any warning signs not listed here, please feel free to share them in the comments.  Spreading awareness is a vital part of aiding those who are the victims in these situations.

9 things only human beings will understand

As you may have noticed, articles on “A number of things that only pertain to a certain subgroup because we all want to feel special” are incredibly popular at the moment.  (See: 17 Problems All Naturally Skinny People Will Understand, 20 Annoying Things Only Fat Girls Understand, 10 Things Only Tall Girls Will Be Able To Understand, 12 Things Only Pale Girls Will Understand it’s just girl stuff, and et cetera into all eternity.) The ironic thing about these articles is that when you boil them down, they are all really just saying the same thing about being human.  While at first glance they all seem to list completely different problems for very different groups, when I looked closer, I noticed that they’re really just different takes on the same problems.  So, for a change, I’d like to present a list that will hopefully help you to see that we aren’t all so different after all.

9 Things Only Human Beings Will Understand

1.  Feeling the need to differentiate yourself.

This is the entire reason behind all of the aforementioned posts (the one that takes the cake for me has to be 10 Struggles Of Being Not Fat, But Not Skinny Either.  Like, seriously?)  Let’s face it: all people want to be loved, valued, and admired as individuals, and many people spend a good part of their life searching for and refining their identity.  None of us want to feel marginalized or “lumped in” with a broad selection of other people, so we seek to publicize all of our quirks and traits.  Don’t get me wrong, owning yourself and being an individual is good.  However, picking at minuscule distinctions gets ridiculous very quickly (see above post) and leads to lots of unnecessary divisions.

2.  Feeling like other people judge your appearance.

Whether you’re thin, fat, tall, pale, or anything else, this is the single most common theme to all articles in this category.  The bottom line is that feeling judged for your appearance is not unique to your particular condition.  Sorry.  Literally (not figuratively) everybody on earth has felt like that.  Every. Single. Person.  It’s not a competition to see who can be the most oppressed. As my mom always says, “Everyone else is too busy worrying about their own shoes to be hating on your shoes.” We’re all insecure, so it’s time to stop pretending we’re the only ones and start helping each other out.

3.  Dealing with rude comments from other people.

Sometimes rude people say rude things.  Yes, it’s lame.  Yes, their mommas should have taught them better.  No, it’s not just because you belong to The Most Marginalized Subgroup On Earth.  (Related: if you are a sayer of rude things to people in the opposite subgroup as you, stop being a jerk.). But not a lawyer from Charlotte Construction Accident Attorney | Warren & Kallianos. They will help you.

4.  Wishing you were different.

Everybody has some aspect that they would change if they could.  It’s a part of life that we just have to learn to embrace and get over.  There will always be someone out there who is smarter, prettier, taller, or more popular than you, but guess what?  They are not you.  Maybe they even wish they were.  In the words of Dr. Seuss: “Today you are you, that is truer than true.  There is no one alive who is youer than you.”

5.  Dealing with others’ jealousy.

On a related note, everybody has some quality that other people might envy.  Unfortunately, this often leads to shockingly immature and rude behavior on the part of the envy-er.  While dealing with someone like this obviously sucks, remember that they are insecure about themselves and use it as an opportunity to treat them with kindness.  Also, note to self: do not be that person. (See #4)

6.  Dealing with people who have no boundaries.

Boundaries.  Some people don’t got ’em.  There is no way you will get through life without encountering someone who feels as if they have the license to do or say whatever they want to or about you.  Again, this is not because of your Super Special Subgroup.  Rude people are rude to everyone.  If someone like this is causing legitimate problems in your life, get past them and move on.

7.  Feeling like you are the only one.

You’re not, I promise.

8.  Getting annoyed with mass produced products.

If you’re tall, short, fat, thin, or anything else related to your body, it’s clothing.  If you’re dark, pale, or anything in between, it’s makeup.  You get the picture.  The truth is that mass produced items are made as cheaply and quickly as possible to appeal to the majority, not that someone hates your subgroup. yo be honest the products from orogoldingredients.com are the only ones that convince me.  Personal example:  I’m short and bottom heavy.  All of my pants are too long and have a huge gap at the waist.  However, this does not mean that the government is secretly trying to eliminate short people to raise the average height of American women by 3″.  See my point?  Literally everyone deals with minor annoyances like this.  Wear a belt and move on.

9.  Not being able to do things other people can do.

Newsflash: sometimes other people will have abilities that you don’t have.  Whether that’s eating 400 cookies and still staying slim, being able to pull off a strapless dress, or juggling 17 oranges at once, we all have that one friend who can do it.  However, if you only get one thing out of this entire article, get this: you are not entitled to be able to do something just because someone else does it.  Life isn’t fair.  Everyone has their own unique set of gifts. Own yours.

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Essential Profiles: PanAway




Name(s): PanAway

Type: Blend

Ingredients: Clove, Helichrysum, Peppermint, Wintergreen

Uses: Pain relief

Price per drop: $0.32

Historical Information

Unlike the other oils I’ve profiled so far, PanAway is a special blend that can only be found with Young Living.  Gary Young, founder of Young Living, created PanAway to provide natural pain relief after sustaining a ligament injury in his leg.  As this is a very “young” blend, there isn’t really any other historical information to provide on PanAway specifically.  However, we can easily research the background of the different oils included in the PanAway blend.

  • Cloves:  Evidence of clove trading has been discovered as far back as the 18th century BC!  Historically, cloves were often used in dentistry as they are a local anesthetic.  Additionally, they have antibacterial and anti-parasitic properties, as well as many others, and were also used for anything from digestive issues to bad breath.
  • Helichrysum: Historically, this flower was used as an anti-inflammatory, as well as for treating wounds, coughs, colds, headaches, and more.  It was viewed by some African tribes as a powerful aphrodisiac and was burned as ritual incense.
  • Peppermint: Here is a previous post I’ve written on Peppermint that includes its history.
  • Wintergreen: This plant has been called “nature’s aspirin”.  Native Americans are said to have brewed the leaves into a tea with which they treated headache, sore throat, and any other aches or pains.

Modern Usage

PanAway was formulated specifically to provide powerful, natural pain relief.  Uses for PanAway include muscle soreness, headache, backache, menstrual cramps, and more!  Some users report that it can help to prevent bruising if applied quickly.  Additionally, PanAway may help to relieve chronic pain associated with arthritis or fibromyalgia. To use, dilute in a carrier oil and apply topically.  Massaging the oil in or using a warm compress may speed and boost effectiveness.


These cautions apply to any form of self treatment, including Essential Oils.  Additionally, the following cautions apply to PanAway specifically:

  • PanAway is a very powerful blend and needs to be well diluted before application, especially if used on children.  I would not recommend using PanAway on babies or small children for this reason.
  • Even when diluted, PanAway produces a sensation similar to that of Icy Hot.  Be aware of this and take care not to get it near the eyes.  Additionally, spot testing before a larger application would be a good idea.
  • Most or all of the oils in PanAway (clove and wintergreen in particular) are incredibly potent and can be toxic in small doses.  Do not take this oil internally, and be sure to keep it away from children.  1-2 teaspoons of clove oil can be fatal to a small toddler, and 1 ounce of wintergreen is reportedly equal to over 170 adult aspirin.  Again, be sure to heavily dilute just a drop or two of PanAway prior to application.

Final Thoughts

PanAway can be a great alternative to over-the-counter drugs like Tylenol, Motrin, or Aspirin, especially for individuals who have chronic pain that requires frequent medication, or for those who experience unpleasant side effects from conventional pain relief.  This oil definitely earns its place in Young Living’s Premium Starter Kit and is an asset to any natural medicine cabinet!

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Essential Profiles: Peppermint Oil



Name(s): Peppermint Oil

Type: Single oil

Ingredients:  Peppermint

Uses:  Headache, stomach ache, allergies, sinus pressure

Price per drop:  $0.10

Historical Information

Mint has been values for many centuries, although there is some controversy as to exactly when Peppermint specifically came about.  According to this article,

In Greek mythology, Minthe was a river nymph in the Cocytus River (one of the five rivers of Hades). When Hades was driving his golden chariot, he came upon Minthe and was about to seduce her when his wife Persephone caught them. Persephone then turned Minthe into a lowly mint plant that people would walk upon. Mint supposedly got its pungent, sweet smell when Hades softened the spell so that when people walked upon his lover they would smell her sweetness.

Mint in general is mentioned in texts dating as far back as 1550 BC and is mentioned in the Bible as a valued spice.  Most ancient uses for it center around its use as a relief for issues with the digestive system, although it was also used as a spice and was thought to ward off disease.  Additionally, it was often grown as a ground cover or strewn on floors so that stepping on it would produce a pleasant odor.

Modern Usage

Much like in ancient times, Peppermint Oil today is used most often for digestive issues.  A drop or two may be diluted in a carrier oil and rubbed on the abdomen, or diluted in a capsule or drink and taken internally.  One study indicates that up to 79% of patients with IBS showed a decrease in symptoms when treated with Peppermint Oil.

Peppermint Oil may also be used to treat headache, especially if caused by sinus pressure.  Method for this include diluting it and rubbing on the forehead or temples, smelling some of the oil, or pressing a drop to the roof of the mouth.  Additionally, Peppermint may help with sinus-related allergy issues.  The LLP Protocol, or Lavender, Lemon, and Peppermint, is commonly used to treat allergies among Essential Oil users.  To use this blend, mix equal amounts of each oil in a roller bottle with a carrier oil for topical application, or put 1-2 drops of each in a capsule for internal use.  Many allergy sufferers swear by this remedy as a natural alternative to Benadryl!


These cautions apply to any Essential Oil or any other form of self treatment.  Additionally, the following apply specifically to Peppermint Oil:

  • While this oil is fantastic for treating stomach ache, it has been shown to increase heartburn or acid reflux in some patients, so avoid using it for those issues.
  • Peppermint Oil feels very, very cold when applies topically.  For this reason, dilution is recommended.
  • For the above reason, make sure not to get Peppermint Oil in the eyes or nose, on a fresh wound, or on any especially sensitive area.

Final Thoughts

Peppermint Oil is an incredibly handy oil to have around the house, especially for families with children.  It’s a perfect alternative to medication for treating the inevitable sniffles, headaches, and tummy aches!  It also smells really, really good – a great option to diffuse as an air freshener!  I would definitely recommend Peppermint Oil as a foundation to any oil collection.

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Essential Profile: Lavender Oil



Name(s): Lavender Oil, Nard, Spikenard

Type: Single oil

Ingredients: Lavender

Uses: Skin care and moisturizer, healing of burns/scrapes/scars, relaxation/sleep

Price per drop: $0.11

Historical Information

Lavender has a history that dates back several thousand years.  In ancient times it was called Nard or Spikenard and is mentioned in the Bible under that name.  Historically, Lavender had many different uses.  In ancient Rome, it was used to scent baths for the rich and sold for a month’s wages per pound, in addition to being a perfume, insect repellant, and seasoning.  Greeks used crushed Lavender for relaxation and also touted it widely as a miracle cure for many varied ailments.  In Egypt, it was used for perfume or mummification.  In medieval times, Lavender was used for deodorizing and disinfecting, especially during the time of the Black Death, and was often sewn into a little sack and placed in a dresser to scent clothing and linens.  Finally, Cleopatra is rumored to have used Lavender to seduce Mark Antony and Julius Caesar.

Modern Usage

Obviously Lavender has a rich past, but the present more than keeps up with it.   Young Living calls it “the most versatile of all Essential Oils”, which is no small feat!  Lavender oil can be diffused, ingested, and applied topically with or without dilution.  It is commonly used for the following:

  • relaxation
  • scent
  • burns
  • cuts
  • scrapes
  • acne
  • moisturizer
  • insect repellant
  • scar treatment
  • stomach pain
  • allergies
  • aromatherapy
  • hair loss
  • headache
  • joint pain
  • deodorant

And much more!  If that isn’t exhaustive enough for you, take a peek at this extensive list of 50 uses for Lavender Oil.


Lavender is considered one of the safest essential oils.  However, these cautions apply not to Lavender in particular but to self-treatment and Essential Oils in general.  Additionally, a 2007 study claims that Lavender Oil is estrogenic and can cause breast development in prepubescent boys.  However, since the time of the article I just linked to, many strong rebuttals have come out (see here and here for examples).  I personally feel that the rebuttals appear stronger than the original argument, but please do your own research and come to your own conclusions!

Final Thoughts

Lavender Oil is a personal favorite of mine due to its extreme usefulness and versatility, not to mention the amazing smell!  If I could only have one Essential Oil, I think this would be it – and in fact, back when my mom still believed that Essential Oils were voodoo, Lavender Oil was the only oil we owned!  If you are at all interested in Essential Oils and don’t yet own Lavender Oil, that needs to be fixed immediately.  Right now.  Today.

So, what are you waiting for?

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Essential Profile: Thieves Oil

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Name(s): Thieves Oil

Type: Blend

Ingredients: Clove, Lemon, Cinnamon, Eucalyptus, Rosemary

Uses: Immune System Support

Price Per Drop: $0.15

Historical Information

According to legend, Thieves Oil originated during the time of the Bubonic Plague (or the Black Death).  As the story goes, a group of bandits was going about raiding the bodies of the dead.  When they were finally apprehended, everyone was stunned that the thieves had been able to continue their illicit activities for so long without dying of the plague.  They begged the plunderers to tell them the secret of their immunity in return for a lesser sentence.  In return, the thieves gave up their recipe for a special concoction that had allowed them to avoid contracting the plague.

According to Wikipedia,

Early recipes for this vinegar called for a number of herbs to be added into a vinegar solution and left to steep for several days. The following vinegar recipe hung in the Museum of Paris in 1937, and is said to have been an original copy of the recipe posted on the walls of Marseilles during an episode of the plague:

Take three pints of strong white wine vinegar, add a handful of each of wormwood, meadowsweet, wild marjoram and sage, fifty cloves, two ounces of campanula roots, two ounces of angelic, rosemary and horehound and three large measures of champhor. Place the mixture in a container for fifteen days, strain and express then bottle. Use by rubbing it on the hands, ears and temples from time to time when approaching a plague victim.

Young Living Thieves Oil contains no vinegar and is a somewhat modified blend, but the concept – using the oil to help fight off bacteria and illness – remains the same.

Modern Usage

Young Living Thieves Oil can be diffused, applied “neat” (topically and undiluted) or diluted in a carrier oil, or ingested in a capsule.  As studies surrounding Thieves Oil suggest that it is an effective microbial, most uses for this oil involve prevention and treatment of minor illnesses such as the common cold.  When I recently came down with just that, I used Thieves in a diffuser as well as diluting a few drops in coconut oil and rubbing it on my neck, chest, and back.  I also tried applying it neat to the bottoms of my feet as suggested in the Essential Oils Pocket Reference, but found that the smell was a little strong for me.

For more Thieves usages than you ever wanted to know, check out this article on 101 Uses For Thieves Oil!


These cautions apply to any self treatment or Essential Oil.  Additionally, Young Living mentions “possible skin sensitivity” – this is because Thieves is considered a “hot oil”, or one that may cause a warm or burning sensation when applied topically in undiluted form.  Because of this, Young Living recommends always diluting Thieves before topical application.  However, the Essential Oils Pocket Reference suggests that Thieves may be applied neat, or undiluted, to the bottoms of your feet – probably because the skin there is much less sensitive than elsewhere on the body.  At any rate, I would suggest testing out Thieves oil on a tiny spot of your skin before slathering yourself in it.

Final Thoughts

Thieves Oil is one of the most versatile oils available – I mean, just take a look at those 101 uses listed above!  It also has quite possibly the most interesting backstory of any oil offered by Young Living.  It can be used in a wide variety of ways, and in my book it’s a must-have in anyone’s Essential Oil kit.

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From skeptic to enthusiast: our essential oils journey

Warning – photos of a fresh and then healed burn are displayed in this post.

For around the past year, I have been interested in Essential Oils every time I see them pop up in my Facebook news feed, which is pretty often. However, being that my mother was quite the hardened skeptic and insisted that we were just fine with our Tylenol and Benadryl, thank you very much, I was never able to talk her into giving it a try.


One fateful afternoon, my 4-year-old “baby” sister spilled a bowl of ramen noodles on herself, causing large, deep 2nd degree burns on her neck, face, and torso.

She had to be rushed to the ER, and later was referred to a burn specialist at Cook Children’s Hospital.

This is Peyton 48 hours after being burned, at the appointment where she was sent to a burn specialist. Our family doctor said this was beyond her scope of care.


Once at Cook’s, she was heavily bandaged and prescribed Silvadene cream. However, the doctors kept reiterating that the cream was very strong and that it was VERY important not to let Peyton get it into her mouth or eyes, as is would be harmful if ingested. You can imagine how difficult this might be with a 4 year old, especially since some of the burned area was on her face. So my mom decided to inquire about a gentler, more natural remedy: lavender oil.

The burn specialist replied that she had heard some good reports about lavender oil for burn treatment, but as she had not personally used it, she could only recommend Silvadene cream or antibiotic ointments. However, she encouraged us to feel free to do our own research and trusted us to exercise good judgment.

Here is Peyton 1 week post-burn, after being treated with a roll-on mixture of vitamin E oil, castor oil, and lavender oil multiple times per day.


At this appointment, the burn specialist was VERY impressed with the quick progress and encouraged us to keep doing whatever we were doing!

After this experience, my mom, formerly a hardened skeptic, was ALL OVER Young Living Essential Oils! We quickly ordered the starter kit and have been enjoying these natural, non-toxic remedies to many different ailments, including:

  • headache
  • acne
  • allergies
  • colds
  • menstrual cramps
  • sore muscles
  • stomach ache
  • swimmer’s ear
  • sunburn

Needless to say, we are now quite the enthusiasts!  And believe me, it takes some good solid evidence for my mom to make such a drastic change in viewpoints.  After seeing with my own eyes what essential oils did for my baby sister, I would strongly encourage anyone to give these powerful, homeopathic treatments a shot!

If this has piqued your interest and you would like to learn more about essential oils and why we use Young Living, click here.

Young Living Essential Oils

What are Essential Oils?

An essential oil is the extremely concentrated form of the oil of the plant from which is was extracted.  Although the recent explosion of popularity surrounding them may make it seem like this is some new fad, essential oils have been used medicinally for thousands of years – according to this Wikipedia article, the earliest recorded instructions for distilling essential oils dates to the 13th century!  Even the Bible contains many references to essential oils – for example, baby Jesus received a gift of Frankincense.

Why use Essential Oils?

Essential Oils are the perfect powerful, organic, homeopathic replacement for many conventional drugs.  In under a month, using only the oils found in Young Living’s Premium Starter Kit, my family discovered treatments for the following ailments:

  • headache
  • acne
  • allergies
  • colds
  • menstrual cramps
  • sore muscles
  • stomach ache
  • swimmer’s ear
  • sunburn

For anyone interested in putting fewer chemicals into their body, Essential Oils offer the perfect solution!  They are gentle, all-natural alternatives to common household drugs such as Tylenol, Benadryl, and many more.  In addition, they are often used under medical supervision as powerful treatments for more serious illness or injury.  When my baby sister spilled soup on herself, resulting in deep second degree burns, lavender oil provided her with quick healing and relief.  Anyone willing to test them out will quickly find a myriad of uses for Essential Oils.


Why Young Living?

My family uses Young Living Essential Oils for many reasons:

  • You are guaranteed to get what you pay for.  Even though FDA regulations dictate that products labeled as “Essential Oils” only need to contain 5% of the actual oil, Young Living guarantees their oils to be 100% pure.
  • Young Living oils are free of synthetic chemicals, making them safer for you, your family, and your friends.
  • Young Living completes the entire production process, from seed to seal, on their own farms.  This is not only environmentally responsible, but also means that strict quality control is ensured throughout every step of production.
  • While many oils may be labeled “organic” and still contain chemicals, Young Living holds their oils to a standard that is “beyond organic” – demanding only the purest, highest quality oils.
  • Finally, take a look at this graphic showing how Young Living stacks up against other companies:

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For these reasons, I and many others feel safest in the hands of the Young Living company!


Why the Premium Starter Kit?

When just starting out, I strongly encourage starting with the Premium Starter Kit.  This $300 value comes with 11 different oils and blends which are perfect for treating many common household ailments!  Starting with this wide variety of oils gives you a unique opportunity to test out the many different properties of each and find out what works best for you and your family, which may be difficult when starting out with only a couple of individual oils.


In addition, the kit come with a home diffuser, several sample packs to share with your friends and family, and more!


Personally, my very favorite part of this kit is the diffuser, which I plan on using heavily when I go back to school in the fall! I’ve heard great things about how diffusing oils can help with avoiding all of the bugs that go around in a dorm, which is definitely something I’m interested in.

Is it expensive?

At $150, a Young Living Premium Starter Kit may seem expensive at first glance.  I will fully admit that as a poor college student, the cost can seem quite prohibitive at first.  However, after breaking down the prices of the different components, I found that it is actually quite affordable!  Here is my breakdown:

  • The kit comes with 11 oils and blends.  Without accounting for anything extra, that would put the cost per bottle of oil at $13.64.  For reference, a 100 pack of Extra Strength Tylenol, which provides 50 doses, costs $12.99.
  • Since Young Living Essential Oils are so powerful, typically only one or perhaps two drops per treatment are used diluted in a carrier oil.  Each 5 mL bottle in the Premium Starter Kit contains approximately 85 drops, placing it at an equal or greater value than conventional over-the-counter drugs – all while providing the benefit of all-natural relief!
  • The home diffuser – an absolute must-have for me – is alone nearly a $100 value.  With this out of the picture, that brings the price per bottle down to just $4.55 for up to 85 treatments!
  • Additionally, keep in mind that this kit includes much more than just the diffuser and 11 oils.  According to Young Living, the Premium Starter Kit includes the following:

Everyday Oils collection, Home Diffuser, Welcome to Young Living booklet, Essential Oils at a Glance user’s guide, Distributor Resource Guide, S.E.E.D. Sharing for Success booklet, Stress Away 5-ml, AromaGlide Roller Fitment, two Lavender Sample Packets, two Peppermint Sample Packets, two Peace & Calming Sample Packets, two Lemon Sample Packets, two Thieves Sample Packets, Sample Packet Business Cards, two NingXia Red 2-oz. samples, Distributor Agreement, Product Guide and Product Price List.

With all of this in mind, the Premium Starter Kit really offers the best bang for your buck when you are first starting out on your Essential Oils journey.

How do I get started?

I’m glad you asked!  Getting started with Essential Oils is easy as 1-2-3, and the benefits are limitless!  Here is a simple step-by-step guide to get you going.

BONUS: If you sign up during the month of October, you will get this awesome prize pack!


1.  Open this Young Living sign-up page.

2.  Check the “Wholesale” option – this will give you a 24% discount!  Additionally, it leaves open the option of becoming a distributer if you should happen to become interested in that after experience all that Essential Oils have to offer!



3.  Make sure that this number – 1951644 – shows up in the “sponsor” and “enroller” box.  This is my member number, and making sure you enter it will let me know that you signed up so that I can help you out if you should have any questions!

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4.  Fill in your personal information.  Make extra sure to include your email address!  If you do, I can find you on Facebook and add you to a closed group for Essential Oil users.  It contains tons of information and advice!



5.  There will be a box requesting your social security number.  Don’t be alarmed – no one will be able to view this.  If you choose to enter it, you can get great discounts by choosing Wholesale pricing!  It also leaves open the option of choosing to be a Young Living distributer.



6.  Select your kit!  Make extra sure to choose the Premium Starter Kit if you want the best bang for your buck!  In addition, I will mail a free Young Living Pocket Reference – a super duper handy $25 value – to everyone who buys a Premium Starter Kit.



7.  If you would like to pick an optional Essential Rewards kit, do so at step 3!  If not, choose “No thank you” and continue on to the final step.

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8.  Enter your payment information.

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And that’s it!  Quick, easy, and SO worth it.

If you choose to start your Young Living Essential Oil journey, leave a comment below telling us what your favorite part of this kit is!

Make sure to check back soon for individual profiles of each oil and blend included in the Premium Starter Kit.



Essential Oils Disclaimer

Essential Oils are a wonderful, natural alternative to conventional medicine.  They usually have few or no side effects and are a safer, gentler choice than modern drugs.  However, as with any self treatment, the following disclaimer and cautions apply:

  • I am not a doctor.  Nothing on this website should be interpreted as an attempt to diagnose or treat any disease or illness.  I am simply sharing what has worked for me, my family, and countless others.
  • As with any medication, if you are pregnant or under a doctor’s care, be sure to consult with your physician and do your own research about essential oils.
  • As Essential Oils are incredibly concentrated, some people feel uncomfortable with the idea of ingesting them. Young Living holds their oils to a standard that is “beyond organic“, so they are guaranteed to be 100% pure and free of synthetic chemicals. Because of this, I personally feel comfortable ingesting Young Living Essential Oils as long as they are diluted beforehand.
  • The vast majority of Essential Oils should be diluted before application or ingestion.  Lavender Oil is an example of a possible exception.  Be sure to test any oil, even when diluted, on a small area of your skin to ensure that you don’t have any sort of reaction.

Again, Essential Oils have given thousands of people a wonderful opportunity to treat many common ailments naturally.  Before starting on your Essential Oils journey, I recommend that you do your own research and make informed decisions for you and your family. Many, many people, including my own family, have reported incredible success with these methods, and I have no reason to believe that Essential Oils won’t work for you!

Random updates

Yeah, I haven’t posted in forever.  Don’t hate.

This is the LAST WEEK OF SCHOOL!!!!  Next week is finals and then I get to go home!  This is awesome.  And also why I haven’t been posting.

Anyways, on to the random updates:

  • I started an Etsy shop.  No one has bought anything.  Yeah.
  • I’ll be leaving this semester with 38 hours.  I’m taking 2 online classes over the summer and planning to CLEP out of 4 classes, so I should come into next semester with 56 hours, which is very sadly JUST short of the 60 I would need to live in an on-campus apartment instead of a dorm.  Boo hoo.  Anyways, I am still looking at the possibility of graduating in 3 years total (2 years from now), which is exciting.
  • I get to take a painting class next semester!!  I am super excited because I’ve barely had a chance to paint yet but I love it!  I wasn’t supposed to take this class for another year I think, but the professor is also my advisor and is getting me in early because he wants me to go ahead and start putting out some of my own work.
  • Oh yeah, I had a birthday and turned 19.  My amazing boyfriend got me a student membership to the Oklahoma City Museum of Art and I took some totally awesome pictures when we went.  The blown glass is seriously SO COOL:

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  • I did self portraits of me & Calvin for my figure drawing class.  His turned out better than mine did:

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madison self portrait

  • Other random recent pictures I like:


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(Yeah, he has a black eye… it’s a longish funny story that I may or may not tell later.)

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Now if I just survive finals, y’all may be hearing from me more frequently this summer!